Rainbow provide the training to enable foster carers to manage within their own family setting. There are particular issues that will arise when a foster child arrives. Because of this, it is important that the views and feelings of all the family members are taken into account.
We ensure that there is support available to make such placements successful. This is because, when successful, the benefits to everyone can be considerable.
Foster care in family setting
For those people who are fostering children and have their own children; or people considering fostering generally, this page sets out some of the issues that can arise. It is intended to highlight points to be considered when a foster child or young person is placed within a family, where the parents already have their own children. Clearly, since no two situations will ever be alike, what follows illustrates the broad themes likely to be encountered.
Where a child is fostered in a family with birth children, there will be positives along with potential negatives. Managing any negative aspects is clearly a priority. Generally, most sons and daughters feel they are happy being part of a foster family and recognise there are benefits. There is evidence that some will go on to become foster carers themselves, or progress to establish careers within the caring professions.
Issues for birth children
Birth children of carers usually describe their role as presenting significant challenges. They commonly report some of their experiences are negative and difficult to deal with. It is this mixture of both the positive and negative that creates the main difficulty. This has been described as ‘living within a contradictory experience’. An additional burden can be that the birth children often feel unable to talk through their problems and issues with their parents. There are also the unique strains on the foster carers themselves to be taken into account . They can experience difficulties in knowing they want to provide the best for their birth children, but also for the child they foster. Foster parents can experience guilt if they feel too much time is being spent with the foster child – even if they feel their own children are getting benefits from the experience . The challenges and problems birth children
The impact on carers children: benefits and challenges
The impact of fostering on carer’s children can be listed broadly in terms of benefits and challenges: Benefits -
- feelings of responsibility and worry,
- expectations of parents,
- sharing belongings, living space and possessions,
- sharing parent’s time,
- increased responsibility
Making a success of a placement
Successful placement outcomes will in large part depend upon the quality of support being given to the foster carers birth children. This has to be reviewed regularly: fostering agencies all provide sensitive and timely intervention in anticipation of potential problems. Public authorities are required to safeguard and promote the welfare of children in their areas. They have obligations under the United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child both to consult children about decisions which can affect them, as well as to promote family life. When authorities have placed children, and where this may have caused difficulties for other children in the household, they have a responsibility to support the birth children.
International research into the area of the effects of fostering on carer’s children shows that being involved in the decision to foster helps birth children to manage. It is important that children and young people in the family are involved in the decision to foster and their views are given weight. Keeping birth children informed about fostering and their foster sibling(s) can reduce conflicts. When the decision to foster has been made, the birth children should be told what fostering involves. This should cover both the positive and negative aspects. Good communication is very important: information should be given regularly and not just when the placement starts. Being informed can make it easier to cope with difficult behaviour. This can make birth children feel competent and involved, and able to play an important part in the fostering experience.